No, one does not necessarily make a vow of monogamy. If someone has got married using a traditional Christian ceremony, then they have made such a vow (but they still might have agreed with their spouse to vary the terms, afterwards!) If someone has got married in a register office, then unless you were there, you don't know what they promised. At least in Scotland: I was happy to find out that the only thing you have to declare are (a) that you are legally free to marry (b) that you wish to be regarded by the law as married.
That's why I didn't tick more, e.g. "politician who uses their family". OK, if the person breaking the story *does* know that they'd vowed monogamy. I also wondered about "vicar", but decided that's not in the *public* interest. It may be in the interests of the members of that person's church.
I guess that I'm old fashioned. I would never cheat on anyone, and I simply don't understand open relationships. I would like to dedicate my life to one person. And if they cheated on me I would be devastated.
Please don't confuse having sex with someone other than your main partner with "cheating". By and large, it seems to me, people whose relationships do not involved a promise of sexual exclusivity are more, not less, scrupulous about being honest with their partners and about keeping the promises they have made.
No. It means that they couldn't keep that promise, if they made it. You never know what's happened inside a marriage. The break up of a marriage is a human thing, not something to be condemned.
I mistrust those who don't understand this fact, or use a misinterpretation of it to bully other people.
I know multiple married couples where there ‘traditional’ boundaries aren't applied; apparent infidelity would not actually be breaking any promises in these cases.
I'm curious why it's only politicians who need to be held to this standard - surely vicars and the bosses of large organizations are recipients of a great degree of trust also. (And for that matter sportsmen/women ‘in the field’ - their fans and team-mates trust them not to e.g. throw a match.)
Mostly it's only politicians who bang on about traditional morality - I don't care about their sex life - I care if they want one rule for themselves and another rule for the general public.
I remember around the time of the "Paddy Pantsdown" affair someone on usenet1 said that it was well-known in Lib Dem circles that Ashdown and his wife had an open marriage. I really think politicians would benefit from occasionally saying "yeah, so what?" in response to these stories. Didn't seem to do Alan Clark's reputation much harm.
Max Mosley might as well change his surname to "Nazi Orgy" now, since those two words are going to pop up in any news story about him despite winning the court case (with some justification - "it wasn't a Nazi orgy, it was a German prison scenario orgy" - yeah, right).
1 Yes, I know, but this was someone who was probably in a position to know.
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That's why I didn't tick more, e.g. "politician who uses their family". OK, if the person breaking the story *does* know that they'd vowed monogamy. I also wondered about "vicar", but decided that's not in the *public* interest. It may be in the interests of the members of that person's church.
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I mistrust those who don't understand this fact, or use a misinterpretation of it to bully other people.
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I know multiple married couples where there ‘traditional’ boundaries aren't applied; apparent infidelity would not actually be breaking any promises in these cases.
I'm curious why it's only politicians who need to be held to this standard - surely vicars and the bosses of large organizations are recipients of a great degree of trust also. (And for that matter sportsmen/women ‘in the field’ - their fans and team-mates trust them not to e.g. throw a match.)
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Max Mosley might as well change his surname to "Nazi Orgy" now, since those two words are going to pop up in any news story about him despite winning the court case (with some justification - "it wasn't a Nazi orgy, it was a German prison scenario orgy" - yeah, right).
1 Yes, I know, but this was someone who was probably in a position to know.