I am interpreting the question as saying any behaviour is acceptable in the circumstance of love or war; the end justifies any means. Love and war seem to be quite different situations; but war is important to the fighters and they try as hard as they can to win it, while love can also be viewed as someone trying to win the heart of another using tricks or cajolement as necessary.
Hmm, not necessarily any behavior - we have rules governing war and people don't for instance get excused murder just because they happened to be in love, but it certainly expresses the view that many normal rules of conduct don't apply.
Although a quick bit of FGoogling suggests that the whole area of defences of provocation was being subjected to government review in 2003, so this may not still be the case.
I agree with the sentiment that war is almost by definition what happens after fairness has broken down, but not that literally anything is ok -- however artificial rules of war may be, they're better than all out war.
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Date: 2008-03-27 12:36 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2008-03-27 09:01 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2008-03-27 09:15 am (UTC)Actually, to some extent (and in various jurisdictions) that does happen, if my recollection is correct.
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Date: 2008-03-27 09:17 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2008-03-27 07:33 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2008-03-27 10:48 am (UTC)I've heard that about love, and I don't know.