On the other hand, there's a potential gradient of grey in there: if one has been having good sex for twenty minutes, one partner has been getting sore, says "Stop now, please", and the other continues for another 30 seconds, is that still rape? Now, what about 3 seconds?
And what if that extra 30 seconds is because it takes time for a communication to become obvious? (OK, so 30 seconds to get the message may be somewhat on the obtuse side.) Should we all follow the example of BDSM afficionados and always agree safe words? ('No' and 'stop' are not usually candidates for safe words.)
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Date: 2008-09-02 02:49 pm (UTC)On the other hand, there's a potential gradient of grey in there: if one has been having good sex for twenty minutes, one partner has been getting sore, says "Stop now, please", and the other continues for another 30 seconds, is that still rape? Now, what about 3 seconds?
And what if that extra 30 seconds is because it takes time for a communication to become obvious? (OK, so 30 seconds to get the message may be somewhat on the obtuse side.) Should we all follow the example of BDSM afficionados and always agree safe words? ('No' and 'stop' are not usually candidates for safe words.)