One night poll

[ewx]

Apropos of this article.

[Poll #701581]

Notes:

• If you're in a monogamous relationship then answer as if you were not - i.e. I'm asking about your opinion about the activity in general not about your current situation.
• "Morally wrong for everybody" means you think nobody should do it. "Morally wrong for you but OK for other people" means you'd think you were being bad if you did it but wouldn't necessarily think the same of someone else doing it. "OK for everybody" means you wouldn't think anyone, including yourself, was being bad for it (even if they themselves would).
• You can think it's distateful, or indication of something missing, without necessarily also thinking it's wrong.

Comments

[emperor]

I think your line in the sand may be in a different place to mine, although your first paragraph sounds a bit like a hedge. You could (though I'm not sure I would) argue that friends who are having sex are in an (established?) intimate relationship.

When you say casual sex, I think of "Go to pub, find cute person, take somewhere suitable, fuck", which is a different thing (I think) to shagging your best mate.

[stephdairy.livejournal.com]

I think casual sex is something to do with whether the context of your connection to the other person includes sex as a possibility or expectation.

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[lnr]

Hmm, in your example do you think it make a difference whether you went out *intending* to do that or if it just sort of turned out that way?

[emperor]

I'm think it does, yes. I don't claim to have a very well-defined position on such occurances, however.

[ewx.livejournal.com]

There's a spectrum of possibilities with randoms in pubs and one end and things like marriage at the other, and the boundary between sex with friends and proper relationships is probably somewhat blurry. Still, I think I'd put the line somewhere around there.

Perhaps a good test is how you feel when you or the other person want to stop; if the people involved are upset about it then perhaps what was going on was more than just a friendship that sometimes strayed into bed.