One night poll

[ewx]

Apropos of this article.

[Poll #701581]

Notes:

• If you're in a monogamous relationship then answer as if you were not - i.e. I'm asking about your opinion about the activity in general not about your current situation.
• "Morally wrong for everybody" means you think nobody should do it. "Morally wrong for you but OK for other people" means you'd think you were being bad if you did it but wouldn't necessarily think the same of someone else doing it. "OK for everybody" means you wouldn't think anyone, including yourself, was being bad for it (even if they themselves would).
• You can think it's distateful, or indication of something missing, without necessarily also thinking it's wrong.

Comments

[j4.livejournal.com]

I don't believe that sex has any moral value in and of itself. (And I don't consciously maintain different moral standards for myself and others.) I also don't believe that it's distasteful, or an indication of something missing.

To be honest I don't even think it's inadvisable, or (say) more likely to result in unhappiness than, er, smart sex (that's the opposite of casual, right?).

I think the most I can generalise is that sex* seems to work better** when the people involved have -- implicitly or explicitly -- learned enough*** about the assumptions, expectations, and (for want of a better phrase) parameters of trust that they are bringing to the experience.

I fear that wouldn't make a very good news article, though.

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* In fact, probably all human interactions
** That is, causing fewer harm to the people involved
*** YMMV.

smart sex

[ewx.livejournal.com]

Hahaha l-)

[lnr]

I'm with you on pretty much all of this.

I don't have different moral standards for myself and others either, but I'm aware that other people have moral standards of their own which are different from my own, and then I start tying my brain in knots trying to take that into account.