One night poll

[ewx]

Apropos of this article.

[Poll #701581]

Notes:

• If you're in a monogamous relationship then answer as if you were not - i.e. I'm asking about your opinion about the activity in general not about your current situation.
• "Morally wrong for everybody" means you think nobody should do it. "Morally wrong for you but OK for other people" means you'd think you were being bad if you did it but wouldn't necessarily think the same of someone else doing it. "OK for everybody" means you wouldn't think anyone, including yourself, was being bad for it (even if they themselves would).
• You can think it's distateful, or indication of something missing, without necessarily also thinking it's wrong.

Comments

[lethargic-man.livejournal.com]

Correct me if I'm misinterpreting you here, but it seems to me that the thing that is 'wrong' in the example you cite is simply that someone with more experience is taking advantage of someone with less experience -- and I don't think sex is necessary (though it may be sufficient) for that to happen.

I was actually thinking more along the lines of two people of the same age, my point being that I'm not entirely happy with people forming initial impressions of what sexual relationships are like through casual sex.

I speak here only through my own biases and inexperience, though...

[j4.livejournal.com]

two people of the same age

I wasn't assuming anything about age, only experience. And I'm not even sure that a mismatch in experience is a prerequisite for one person to take advantage of another: I'm not sure it's possible to approach a sexual relationship with no assumptions, no expectations, a completely blank slate -- and as soon as there are assumptions or expectations, they can be misaligned.

I'm not entirely happy with people forming initial impressions of what sexual relationships are like through casual sex

Fair enough.

I suspect, though, that most people have already formed plenty of impressions of what sexual relationships are like before they get anywhere near actually having sex, casual or otherwise.

[lethargic-man.livejournal.com]

I suspect, though, that most people have already formed plenty of impressions of what sexual relationships are like before they get anywhere near actually having sex, casual or otherwise.

True, but I don't think preconceptions substitute for impressions formed by actual experience in this (and many other) fields.

[j4.livejournal.com]

Not a substitute, no, but preconceptions can influence actual experience.