One night poll
Mar. 31st, 2006 02:34 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
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[Poll #701581]
Notes:
- If you're in a monogamous relationship then answer as if you were not - i.e. I'm asking about your opinion about the activity in general not about your current situation.
- "Morally wrong for everybody" means you think nobody should do it. "Morally wrong for you but OK for other people" means you'd think you were being bad if you did it but wouldn't necessarily think the same of someone else doing it. "OK for everybody" means you wouldn't think anyone, including yourself, was being bad for it (even if they themselves would).
- You can think it's distateful, or indication of something missing, without necessarily also thinking it's wrong.
Re: you don't get lengthy digressions on what their favourite colour for JCBs is
Date: 2006-04-05 03:44 pm (UTC)As far as I can tell, you really did mean morally wrong, and I'm sorry I didn't see it, that was just unexpected to me. It feels like that's avoiding asking a question. For instance, suppose someone posts a poll that says "Is it morally wrong if I self harm?" My literal answer is "no". But the answer I want to give is "No, but it's not a good idea! Please try to avoid it if you can!"
If I wanted to ask that moral question, I've come to decide I would have to specifiy explicitly that most people (or some people) think it's a bad idea to sidestep that.
The casual sex example is more complicated because people will also disagree about whether it is unwise.
I'm sorry, does that make any sense?
Re: you don't get lengthy digressions on what their favourite colour for JCBs is
Date: 2006-04-05 04:28 pm (UTC)Re: you don't get lengthy digressions on what their favourite colour for JCBs is
Date: 2006-04-05 04:46 pm (UTC)I would have expected *their* poll to be phrased so that people who answered your poll with "I clicked 'no' with a heavy heart because it's not OK, but I suppose it must be *morally* ok," would have been in the same category as "immoral" people.
Do you not think so?
Re: you don't get lengthy digressions on what their favourite colour for JCBs is
Date: 2006-04-05 05:04 pm (UTC)Re: you don't get lengthy digressions on what their favourite colour for JCBs is
Date: 2006-04-05 05:11 pm (UTC)Fair enough, that's a good point. (Though while I wouldn't feel it necessary to state my own opinon urgently -- I trust your judgement of if you should have sex :) -- I still felt compelled to be complete in my answer.)
The explicit distinction of 'morally' wrong is right there in the question I asked.
Yeah, but I'm still not sure if
(i) You intended to answer a subtly different question to the ones in the research you linked to, and don't think that should be confusing
(ii) You think I'm drawing unnescessary distinctions between your questions and their questions
(iii) You think my interpretation of the poll was wrong...
Re: you don't get lengthy digressions on what their favourite colour for JCBs is
Date: 2006-04-05 05:23 pm (UTC)Re: you don't get lengthy digressions on what their favourite colour for JCBs is
Date: 2006-04-05 05:31 pm (UTC)OK, mainly I'm confused by which question you chose. I would have thought "Do you think it's ever ok to have casual sex?" was the obvious question, and "morally wrong" as more interesting for what it tells you about moral beliefs in general than on this issue; but then that view depends on my prejudgement of what my friends *do* think, so it's not necessarily right.
Re: you don't get lengthy digressions on what their favourite colour for JCBs is
Date: 2006-04-05 05:13 pm (UTC)